I NEED ADVICE ANY ONE WITH EXPERIENCE IN RELATIONSHIPS PLZ

[AroModerator]

I wont be replying anymore. It takes an unfair amount of effort on my part, and you’re just being rude.

[esmheras7Geek]

i am not trying to be rude but if u understand when ur trying to express ur self n speaking ur mind im not checking grammer if u got offended im so sorry not what i was aiming for so i will say sorry if u did i was grateful u corrected my writing so eveyone un derstand than you all if u understand

[AroModerator]

I don’t normally reply after having said I wont, but you don’t seem to get it so I’ll elaborate . . .

No, I actually have absolutely no clue what it’s like to not check grammar. I’m dyslexic.

I do not think in words, I think in images and feelings. I spend my whole life translating between these and the language needed to communicate with others. It takes me great effort to do this, and I must always check what I write to make sure that the words I use are the right ones and the letters are around the right way. I suffer ridicule from people who think I am long winded or use out dated language, because they have no clue the kind of effort it takes to do such translations. The amount that is lost because I have to strangle my perception of the world by forcing it into words that completely lack the ability to express the true depth of what I think. After all, a photo’s worth a thousand words.

Then of course there’s the visual distortions. I can’t see letters like regular folk, they’re all blurry and move around. It’s a struggle for me to read even the simplest of sentences, and often the eye strain gives me migraines. But I make the effort because I don’t want people to get hung up on the communication issues I have or perceive it as a barrier that prevents me from communicating effectively, and I hope also eloquently, with them. I like to be able to be part of online communities such as this one, to learn from others and take inspiration and joy from the artistic expressions they share. I happen to be proud that I can read even if it does bring me pain. I count myself as blessed that I have been able to take joy from the great novels of the ages and wisdom from the words of others. I realize all too well that illiteracy and “learning difficulties” are shockingly high in this modern age of information, that even among civilized society there are those who can not read and write for one reason or another, and I understand the value of literacy.

So no, it doesn’t offend me that you have essentially told me you can’t be bothered to put in the teeny tiny bit of effort it takes to make yourself understood. After all, you’ve not said you have any issues that make this process unusually difficult or painful, you’ve clearly said you just can’t be bothered. It saddens me. It saddens me that others who can do something with such little effort choose not to, because they seemingly have absolutely no clue the value of what they have. I can only hope that some day you realize what you’re wasting.

[ShellyGeek]

To back up Aro’s post a little…

Asking you to type coherently isn’t rude. What is rude (not to mention completely self-centred) is you’re basically saying, “Screw you; I don’t give a sh*t that you don’t understand, or can’t make sense of, what I’m saying.” I read your posts and I’m going crazy trying to make heads or tails of them because I don’t understand you! (Side note: I’m not dyslexic. Nor do I have any other reading or learning disability. I’m just a woman online who likes it when people make sense.)

In general, I think communication online has taken a massive turn for the worse, especially among native English speakers, and particularly with the advent of text messaging and Twitter (even though these sorts of issues were around the internet long before both), and I hate it. From where I sit, many a person take their English grammar education and throw it out the window every day when they type a message to someone, or update their Facebook status, or whatever else. That’s not good.

Also? I don’t know what it’s like not to check grammar, either, because I do my best to put some thought into what I’m typing and make sure other people can understand what I’m trying to say. To me, that’s not rocket science; it’s common sense.

[esmheras7Geek]

Thank you all for your advise once again.

GOD BLESS YOU ALL

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