June 17, 2012 at 2:39 pm #177071
hi guys i have a friend or she is like pretending to be my friend she is older than me im 24 and she’s around 40 plus. and one of our friend ask me to be her makeup artist in her sister recital, the daughter of my pretending friend is also part of the recital but another she got a different artist for her daughter. so thats really fine with me but few days after the recital my other friend who asked me to be her artist on the recital told me that my pretending friend told her that my makeup is not good enough compare to her daughter and she should get the other artist next time she also told her that she will pay for her to get the other artist. so i really feel bad about it because i thought she is my friend because we are close and its really fine with me if they get other artist but pushing our other friend to get the same artist really hurts me a lot because my other friend are one of my longest client and then my pretending friend will force her to get same artist with hers. i really thought she is my friend that she should support me to reach my goals but instead she like pulling me down… and to tell you guys their artist is a professional and working in a salon.. but me i just started doing makeup because my other friends told me to try it because im really passionate about it… now i dont know how to react to my pretending friend.June 17, 2012 at 4:24 pm #177076
I had kinda the same situation when a good friend of mine was supposed to do the makeup for a group friend.. then behind her back she went to someone else and didnt say anything to my friend.
Honesty sometimes is the quickest easiest way to get negative people out of your life. Tell your fake friend that it hurt your feelings and she should have said something to you. Finding out the way you did clarifys your friendship and shows the limits of trust you can put into her in the future.
It sucks but youl get over it…June 18, 2012 at 4:47 am #177130
Thanks marcy. I feel nuch better now.July 7, 2012 at 3:27 pm #180212
Obviously she isn’t your friend. This person is hating, and this sounds like someone whom is immature. C’mon 40? People need to grow up and act their age, this shit sounds like HS. I would confront her and tell her off. Tell her that obviously she is a coward and can’t tell you in your face. If there is something she has to say about you, then to say it to your face. I would blow her off, and move on. She isn’t your REAL friend by her actions she has done against you. Just saying.July 8, 2012 at 3:05 am #180253
I don’t see it all black and white, although I do understand that you’re hurt and why!
Maybe she doesn’t like the kind of makeup you do or she hasn’t seen enough of your work to be sure it’s what she wants. The grown up thing would have been to have a talk with you but sometimes people prefer to get along with a little lie because it’s easier, it’s not pretty but it’s human. What I mean is, it’s not because she doesn’t want you to do her makeup that she isn’t your friend. I have friends whom I love a lot but wouldn’t have them do my makeup or chose clothes for me, I don’t think it makes us less friends, it’s just acceptance of the fact that we have different tastes and respect each other decisions. What I mean is: it’s not because she doesn’t want you to do her mu that she isn’t a real friend.
I do understand it hurt you that she told your other friend not to have you do her makeup. You know what you could do? Offer to do a trial before she decides, and tell her that if she really doesn’t like it, she can have the other lady do it and you won’t mention it again. I would tell her that it’s unfair to dismiss you without giving you a chance to prove what you’re worth. And I’d tell the 40 yo friend that you respect her decision to hire someone else but that telling other people you’re not good really hurt your feelings and that making her own decision is one thing but influencing others against you is another one and not the right way to treat a friend. You’ll see what she has to say.
You might be the youngest but you can still be the grown up in this storyJuly 14, 2012 at 6:01 pm #181226
it could be just business, just try not to take things like that personally because most likely your friend didnt do it to hurt your feelings…she probably feels guilty about it. the other make up artist probably gave a deal to that lady or something…i dont understand why someone would do that out of pure spite…just dont feel bad because you did nothing wrong and just be the better person in this situation
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