just need to get stuff off my chest...

[vw1983]

so, my dad (well stepdad, but i call him dad, my biological dad left when i was a baby and i dont have any contact with him) went for a routine check up at the hospital a few weeks ago, with him being over 60, they do routine tests and things to make sure everything ok. he told me that everything is ok, but he been shifty for last few weeks so i knew something was up. then he got a call on wednesday from doctors, so i asked him to tell me the truth whats going on, so he dropped the bombshell on me, he has prostate cancer. its only very small and in an early stage, so they cn cure it, i think, i hope, i dont know. his first appointment is next wednesday for scans and things, i promised id be there for him every step of the way, id look after him, but im heartbroken, cried solid for the last few days, hes my best friend i dont know what id do without him, im not ready to give up and let go. lost my mum to cancer 7 years ago, my ad dealt with most of that for her, i was never that close to her so i felt like i could carry on with my life as normal, but with my dad its different cos i am closest to him out of everyone, hes my best friend and it feels like my hearts been ripped out. i dont know if im strong enough to do this, but i know i have to for dad. whatever im feeling i know its a million times worse for him.

[divasinger5]

Sending warm thoughts your way, and hoping that your dad feels better soon.

[LisaLuvsMAC]

I'm so sorry for the bad news! But it is good that caught it at an early stage!! I wish your dad lot's of luck. Remember he is probably scared too and needs you to stay strong for him!! So be strong and support him!! Maybe offer to go to an appointment for support. Make sure he gets a healthy diet. Millions of Vegan claim they have cured their own cancer from eating Organic and staying away from processed foods. My prayers will be with you and your dad. Also I'm very sorry you lost your mom too! I couldn't image how you feel to have lost one parent and now you find out this news!! (( HUGS))

[Daantje]

wish you all the strenght in the world to cope with this and be there for your dad. *hug*

[makeup.obsessed.xo]

I'm sorry to hear that! Just as LisaLuvsMAC said, it's a really good thing it was caught in the early stages. It definitely improves his chances of beating it! I hope everything will be okay. You and your dad have my best wishes to be able to cope with this hard time in your life! Keep us up to date!

[starryskies214]

I'm thinking of you in this time! Keep us posted on how your dad is doing!

[vw1983]

all ok so far, he had an appointment at hospital yesterday, had to drink this liquid stuff, wasnt nice for him as it tastes awful and made him wretch. they did som scans on him, ya know the full body scan thing in the tube/tunnel. the results will be here next week to see whats going on and what type of treatment he needs, but so far everythings ok

[MakieRayne]

I hope it all works out :l if something happens, I know it sounds cliche, but he'll be in a better place and know that he won't be suffering anymore

[ScorpioVixen18]

my thoughts and prayers go out to you, your dad and family..I am truly sorry to hear about your news. It is never easy to know what to do or say, how to show them you love them unconditionally. All you can really do is be there for him, let him know you love him....if he needs to put on a brave face, let him - but remind him it's okay to be afraid or to cry or whatever. All you can do for someone you love is be there for them. I really hope that having found it early the Doctors are able to do everythng possible to remove the tumour/s and that your Dad makes a full and speedy recovery...I hope he is with you for many more years to laugh with over this experience in the future ((( cyber hugs ))). PS: I think it is beautiful how much you love him and the bond you have. As someone I know once said "any male can be a Father, but it takes a real man to be a Dad." xxxx

[vw1983]

dad doing alot better, thanks for your support everyone, really means alot, really appreciate it he went in for surgery a couple of weeks ago, all went successfully, they let him come home 3 days afterwards, hes just so brave and strong and amazing, hes in a lot of pain, but coping. im not sure how ive managed to get through this last few weeks, but im still here so thats all good. he has another appointment at the hospital on 26th january so we wont know any more information until then, but hopefully will be good news.